About New Year's Resolutions
Hello and welcome back. Today I want to talk and organise ideas about New Year's Resolutions. Whether you think they are relevant or not, whether you think they work or not, whether you think they are ONLY wishful thinking or not. I have been on both sides of the theory of New Year's Resolutions and I, myself, think they only work if you do. Not every year is the right time to have New Year's Resolutions and not every year it is time for a change. They only work if you do, which means you should really know yourself or dig deep enough to know if you can really pull it off this year. This is not a time to punish yourself if you come clean with yourself and say that you don't think you will be able to pull those New Year's Resolutions off. It is a journey to heal and forgive if there is anything you need to forgive yourself for. It is not a moment for anger because you realise you don't think you will pull through with those resolutions. It is a time of honesty with yourself. Only with yourself. After so many years going back and forth about this topic, i have made my peace with New Year's Resolutions. They come with so many expectations. They almost feel like a hideous chore and they almost start haunting you if you put them off in February. Whether you wrote them on a piece of paper, as a letter form or on your phone as a constant digital reminder, they start beating louder and louder like Poe's heart under the floor. That's why I have been so cynical on this topic for a couple of years. New Year's Resolutions don't work, they are stupid, they are only created out of the mystical, magical euphoria of the Holidays, they are nothing more than that and once you go back to work, or to study they won't matter anymore. Just wishful thinking. But I was wrong. I am not here to tell you that you are wrong too if you see New Year's Resolutions like that too. You are not wrong either. If you think they don't matter and they never will to you, then you are right too. To me, I now realise they matter. It took some time (read years), to truly comprehend what New Year's Resolutions mean to me. I have never been one afraid of change. I actually love it and embrace with enthusiasm. As a matter of fact, i think I am far too comfortable with change if such a "problem" exists. I chase change. I have changed so many houses, towns, friends, schools, etc. throughout my childhood that I now feel like it is not my nature to stay put, to stay in one place and truly work hard and develop ( would it be the right word for this?) a life in a town, without thinking about my next move to the next town. I have moved so many times and I don't regret it because I have seen and appreciated many things before my years. I grew up, perhaps a bit faster, skipped a few steps, rather than having the "standard childhood". I don't see it as a problem. All considering I am really happy with the way things turned out to be. Not afraid of change. Not afraid to keep going. And now I'm off to a tangent. Let's go back to the main point.
New Year's Resolutions are mostly about change or about keeping up with good habits. They are about moving forward. Changing in the right direction. But none needs to change unless they want to unless they feel it is time to do so. That's why New Year's Resolutions don't need to happen for everyone, and certainly, they don't need to happen every year. This is why you don't need to pile up a list of things you want to change or you want to be better at. Not every year is your year. Not every year, throughout the year you will change dramatically. Sometimes your life can change more in a couple of months than in a couple of years. You have to step back for a moment and look at your life at the current stage of things in the most impartial way you can, analyse yourself. But do so with kindness, because we are the most unmerciful judges to ourselves. If you like the way your life is going, you don't need to feel bad about it. Celebrate it. Don't be mad because you don't have New Year's Resolutions. I have met people who were upset about not having New Year's Resolutions. And I can't help but laugh with joy at them. They don't need to change. Just because everyone is always saying there is room for improvements, that doesn't mean you have to change something if you're happy the way you are. Enough said. If you, on the other hand, have found things you really want to change or new goals for your life you feel you are really ready to achieve this coming year, put them on paper. This is your year! Be grateful for this year you are leaving behind, and get ready to work hard and have meaningful goals for the one to come. I am excited. This year I will write my New Year's Resolutions for the first time in years. It is time. They will work because I will work. You will work.